After the summer vacation together…..time passed, relationships, communication, etc. seemed okay. At least from my point-of-view. I continued to have communication with JD’s uncle and aunt. My relationship with my neighbor didn’t seem to be affected. In fact, we were in discussions with our neighbor regarding going on the houseboat vacation again. Remember…we have part ownership in this vacation, we have gone for 3 years in a row, we have the option of inviting one family (as per our partnership).
Then came this email from JD’s uncle:
From: JD’s Uncle and Aunt
To: JD & Me
Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2012 2:27:39 PM
Subject: Houseboat 2012
Hi JD and Ali,
We are starting to make plans for houseboats 2012. Last year JD said you were interested in going every other year so we wanted to touch base and let you know we are planning accordingly.
Maybe you can make plans to visit us at Canyon Lake and Orange County this spring or summer, we would love to see you. We can enjoy the lake, the ocean and all the California attractions (Maybe MJ’s 1st trip to Disneyland or Lego Land??).
Love You Guys,
Signed by his uncle and aunt
JD knew exactly what this was. It was his uncle’s way of informing us they didn’t want us to partake in the vacation this year. I wasn’t sure……so I called. (BTW…it was ONLY mentioned that we might consider going every other year but nothing was ever finalized. Actually just the opposite…we gave our monies for the partnership and vacation during the last trip.)
I quickly responded with a phone call to inform JD’s uncle we were indeed very interested in going again, and had already discussed plans with our neighbor’s to go together again.
Here’s where it turns…….I have copied and pasted the email correspondence which explains how things started the downward spiral. It’s quite a few emails. Again, I will continue to include further correspondences in the next parts (posts).
On Jan 17, 2012, at 7:19 AM, “JD” wrote:
Oops – hit an early send button, eh!
Hey … …… .org,
We briefly discussed this before, however Lxxx Kxxxx had made arrangements for us to take part in the Fitness Expo the weekend of 1/28-1/29.
Lxxx was originally hoping to make it out for the event, but is unable to do so due to the number of galas she is doing in Arizona.
Are you able to pull the crew together and get this event covered? It is not nearly as labor-intensive as the GP. We have a 10×20 booth that we will want to set up grid for. We will run it the same way as the GP, closing one on Saturday and one on Sunday. We can do the buy it now program as well.
Set up will be Friday night.
We will want to get product shipped this week, if there are any items that you are in need of. We will not necessarily need anything special for this event. We will be selling the same type of product that sells at any of our events. I will probably send you a couple MMA pieces as they are apparently going to have some guest appearances by some of these folks.
Please let me know that you’ve got this covered.
Take Off Eh,
From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx (JD’s Uncle)
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 10:34 AM
Subject: Fwd: Fitness Expo
Got your message, sent you the email below yesterday will follow up with the Mxxxxx’s today and let you know.
From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx
Date: January 17, 2012 6:26:56 PM PST
Subject: Re: Fitness Expo
The Mxxxxx’s will let me know by tomorrow if they can do this. Dxx is scheduled for back surgery in February. If they can’t I’ll check with the Wxxxxxx’s.
B (JD’s Uncle)
>> —–Original Message—–
>> From: Bxxxx Yxxxxx
>> Sent: Thursday, January 19, 2012 8:08 PM
>> To: JD
>> Subject: Fitness Expo
>> Rxx is our last hope, (we’re booked that weekend) do you want to call
>> and encourage him? His number is (xxx) xxx-xxxx.
>> He’s interested, but checking to see if he can work out his schedule.
>> He asked if he could set up Sat. morning, I told him no, this event
>> requires Friday setup. I also told him XX convention center, is that
>> Hopefully you can help get him to commit.
>> B (JD’s Uncle)
> On Jan 20, 2012, at 8:00 AM, “JD” wrote:
>> Am I going to have to fly out for this? I have several things that
>> make it less than desirable for me to come that weekend.
>> This is actually really disappointing. I have $3200 invested into
>> this booth and it looks like I may not have a single taker among your
>> entire Southern group.
> —–Original Message—–
> From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx
> Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 5:02 PM
> To: JD
> Subject: Re: Fitness Expo
> Hey again,
> Did you say a prayer?
> Bxx Axxxxxx just committed to doing the event. Please send him
> everything he needs to know and I’ll work to get him set up for success.
> This will be their 1st event, I’m confident they can handle it and
> I’ll oversee as much as possible.
> You do not need to take off!
> Bxxxx Yxxxxxx (JD’s uncle)
> BTW – never received UW check for GP event last
> year, please check it out.
On Jan 20, 2012, at 3:24 PM, “JD” wrote:
> Okay. Do you think he will have any idea how to set up a display with
> It is only a 10×20 booth, so it will need to be done with grid wall.
From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx
Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 6:01 PM
Subject: Re: Fitness Expo
Did I miss the email that said “thank you” for making all the
calls/emails/texts and follow up on this? You booked this for Lxxx, she’s
the one that cancelled and made this a last minute crisis.
On Jan 20, 2012, at 6:49 PM, JD wrote:
> I’m sorry. I thought this was part of what I paid overrides for.
> Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 7:56 PM
To: ‘Bxxxx Yxxxxxx’
Subject: RE: Fitness Expo
Okay, maybe that was a little harsh. I do appreciate the time you have put
in to trying to make this work. I just find it very frustrating that I can
book what promises to be a really good event and no one seems to be willing
to find the time to take advantage of it.
Sorry for not expressing my appreciation enough. I know that it is an area
that I have to continually work on. It’s not that I’m not appreciative; I
just don’t do as good a job of expressing it as I could.
From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx
Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 8:02 PM
Subject: Re: Fitness Expo
Yes and spending half my Saturday tearing down boxes, sorting pictures, hauling trash, and organizing the warehouse. If you think I’m working for the over-ride you’re wrong.
Go buy a plane ticket asshole!
From: Bxxxx Yxxxxxx
Sent: Saturday, January 21, 2012 3:58 PM
Subject: In reply…
From your actions and attitude it’s been clear for a long time that you resent the over-ride arrangement. Lxxx and I have been praying over what to do. We’re concerned about other things like how cash is handled, your brother’s money hidden in the business, and seeing 2 sets of books last year. Voiding of the LBGP UW check was very disappointing. This is your business, you can run it how you want, however our values conflict and it is better for us not to be investors and involved. We went into this originally knowing your company was founded on Christian values, compromises have deviated from those values.
We need to establish an exit plan for the business, loan and investment.
We’ll help the Axxxxxxx’s next weekend with the Fitness Expo including setup with grid walls. Like previous events, you know we’ll do it right.
Bxxxx & Lxxx
Sent from my iPad=
I cannot even begin to tell you how offensive this email is and I’m afraid that it may damage our relationship beyond repair.
It is one thing to be JUDGED and have my ethics questioned. It is another thing, completely, when it is done with practically no accuracy whatsoever. This is not the first time that you’ve made assumptions about me that couldn’t be further from the truth.
I have always, and continue to, deposit cash into the business checking accounts. The cash is deposited in my secondary business account, where I have my loans, as they do not charge me a service fee for cash deposits.
I have no idea what you are referring to as it relates to two sets of books. I have had my tax returns amended a couple times since I’ve been in business. Each time, the new tax returns have been given to the bank that I have my loans through. I have two separate valuations of my inventory, and my bank knows this. One reflects the reasonable wholesale value and the other reflects closer to actual cost of goods.
My brother forewent commissions several years ago with the idea in mind that he would receive more money at such a time that I chose to sell the business. He is not listed as an owner and there is nothing illegal, or shady, whatsoever about this arrangement. For the most part, he did this to help the business out in tough times. How he chose to handle this has been completely up to him. If you think he has done something wrong, then perhaps you need to take this up with him.
I don’t know what the circumstances are involving a supposed voided check for UW. I assume this is something Marie told you was done and I will have to look into it on Monday. I have never once, in nine years, purposely voided a charity check. Admittedly, I have sent some later than I would have liked during tight times.
The loan that I am paying back to you was initially an investment on your part. You requested to amend the arrangement, from my understanding, for cash-flow purposes. Not only did I agree to do this for you, but I’m paying interest to boot.
As for any other investments in the business, I continue to look for a potential buyer. You will get the appropriate payment for your investment when this takes place. I do regret having ever asked for your help financially.
Furthermore, I have been more deep in prayer and the word as it relates to my personal life and my business than at any other time in my life. I have been looking deeply into all aspects of my company to see where I can make it even more ethically sound. I am even in the process of hiring a Christian accountant from my Church which will further establish my fiscal responsibility.
And lastly, perhaps you should elaborate on the resentment you think I have regarding overrides being paid. I have always felt that you do quite a lot, with running the warehouse and all, and that you deserve them. So, again, I’m not really sure where this is coming from. Inferences from you have caused me to feel as though you have always thought that everything you’ve done with our company has been a favor to me, and that it otherwise would not be worth your time and effort vs. the return. While this would certainly be noble, I would never have had it that way if I didn’t feel as though there was a potential for this becoming of significant financial value to you at some point. This has obviously not come to fruition and it is probably best for you to eliminate the strain that this has put on your personal time.
As far as the Expo is concerned, I have already cancelled the event. I found it extremely disappointing to hand you a promising event and have it referred to as a crisis. I wasn’t asking for a favor. I thought I was giving you, or one of your reps, an opportunity. Thus, I suppose (right or wrong), I didn’t necessarily feel it incumbent to gush out thanks and appreciation. I thought I was simply asking you to do what I have always commissioned you to do.
From a personal standpoint, Alli has tried to reach out to you and Lxxx to discuss the houseboat situation. Based on the fact that there has not been a returned call, of any kind, and the nature of the email you sent, I am assuming that you would rather not have us a part of this venture. Considering everything, it would probably be best to eliminate this partnership as well.