Aftershocks Part 8

Recap of betrayals thus far:

  1. Marie
  2. Sales Rep/Friend stealing from company
  3. Bxxxx & Lxxx

In addition, we also uncovered a business partner who was dishonest with a huge factor of his business from years past – causing the FBI to come into our current business, raid it, interrogate our employees and us.  Coming to the conclusion that we were NOT part of his dishonest transactions.  However, this is quite stressful when it involves you and your business at any given time!!

This business partner proceeds to pull out – Thank God!  But not before stealing $10,000+ worth of product from our company.  Charges will need to be brought against him and legal actions taken.  Icky stuff!!

I had received a phone message from Bxxxx & Lxxx to please give them a call.  I really didn’t want to deal with anything more, so I waited a few days to respond.

A few days passed.  I was on my way back from dropping my daughter off from a volleyball camp when I decided to return the call.  I had about 30 minutes of drive time.  I was alone in the car – so I called.  They were together in their car and I was on the speaker phone.

The conversation began as most did – with the niceties and catching up on family, events, etc.

Then Lxxx started!  She started railing me about JD and all of wrong-doings over the past years.  The hurt he has caused, the events she remembered, all the crap that an individual needed to unload – I got it full speed!  I started crying – which she couldn’t even know because she didn’t even take a breath to hear anything other than her words.  Remember: Bxxxx is also present and says “nothing!”

I had to pull over because I was shaking from crying and she was so constant.  I finally did get a chance say, “I understand all the hurt he has done and how he has made you feel.  But I’m asking what it is that you WANT from him?  What do you EXPECT from him?  He has apologized over and over again and I don’t know what more he could do?”

She went on to say, “We want to be completely removed from the company, don’t want anything to do with it, we don’t feel he is the Christian he claims to be or runs his company in the Christ-like manner we originally thought we were getting involved in……..”  And then she started on the nailing to the cross course again.  All the while not addressing the question of, “What do you want from him?”  I hear all that you wish to do and your plans, and that can be accomplished.  But you have already stated your plans before, I know this.  What do you WANT from him?  No words from Bxxxx.

After I had pulled off to park and I was in tears, I asked 3 times for her to stop.  She couldn’t hear me because she didn’t even take a breath.  Actually as time went on, she gained momentum.  I finally had to hang up.  I wasn’t about to sit there and hear anymore.  What was the point?

I drove home and as soon as I walked in the door – JD asked what in the world was the matter?  I told him about the conversation.  We decided at this point it was time to distance ourselves from Bxxxx & Lxxx.  It wasn’t healthy what was transpiring and for the sake of our family and continued health in recovery…..we had to ask for silence.  And that’s what we did.

A few weeks passed and I received the following email from Bxxxx:

From: “Bxxxx Yxxxxxx”
To: “Alli”
Sent: Tuesday, February 7, 2012 2:44:40 AM
Subject: Check out this YouVersion Reading Plan

Hi Alli,
This devotional describes exactly what we need and want that will restore trust!
(I copied and pasted it:  James 5:16  Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.)
I just finished day 133 of the Rick Warren’s Daily Devotional Bible reading plan at, and I thought you might like it too. Check it out.
JD and I continued to be still and not respond.  I really didn’t know what to say at this point?
Two days later we received the following email:

From: “Bxxxx & Lxxx Yxxxxxx”
To: “Alli”
Sent: Thursday, February 9, 2012 1:11:20 PM
Subject: bike for MJ
Hi Alli,
I just got an email from the bike company and they said they sent MJ’s bike to your home address. She mentioned something about shipping, I’m not sure if they are charging for the shipping or not it was unclear to me, hopefully they are covering it. I hope MJ loves his new bike!! Aunt Lxxx
They had won a bike at an auction for a little boy.  So they had it shipped to us for our youngest son.  After we received the bike, we responded with a “Thank You!” and forwarded a picture of MJ on it.  But maintaining a silence still between all of us.
This silence (Stillness/Rest) was needed to be able to cope with all of the other aspects of life and our business.  I continued to put in 12+ hours a day, cleaned house of employees who were not to be trusted, simplified things in the business, downsized so we could continue to have a good handle on all aspects.  We moved our business location to help with simplifying.  I needed to focus on hearing God, my family and business – and nothing else.
So…..we continued to: “Be still and know that He is God!”  And waited patiently for his answers.

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