Twelve days ago JD and I received an email from you that indicated you and Lxxx were going ahead with plans for the 2012 houseboat trip. I know it was mentioned (during the last trip) the possibility of doing an every other year trip, but nothing was concluded.
I called and spoke to you about this and said we would be getting back to you. After that conversation, I conveyed to JD some things I felt about you and Lxxx. I told him the two of you are the closest thing I have to what I call family. I lost my brother 12 years ago and have no one close in my family. I felt you two cared deeply about us, have put forth effort and have helped us through some major milestones in our lives. And you mean a lot to me. The Powell trip was a nice time to spend together.
I called and left a message on Sunday 1/15 to which we never heard back.
Upon receiving the Lake Powell email, JD shared his thoughts with me. He said you guys had already made up your minds to how Lake Powell should go and this was your way of dealing with it. I defended you and the email. I think JD might have been right.
Further time passed and you wouldn’t return or take any of JD’s calls.
Then came all the emails that have prompted me to respond.
You and I both know JD has made some choices that have not been the best. But there is one thing I will say…….I don’t know of anyone who has the humility he has. I know firsthand that he has made humble apologies for numerous things. Things such as what transpired last Lake Powell trip, the situation a year ago, for hurt he has caused you, and the most recent…an email sent minutes before one of your emails. These are just the more recent ones.
I have read and discussed this with JD and I can’t help but to see some things. Within these emails, there is unforgiveness. And there is much judgment.
Do you have a right to ask such questions as you have presented in these emails? ABSOLUTELY!
As a friend, Uncle, and investor – you have EVERY right to present these concerns. But these concerns should be presented to JD and not asked through Marie. These concerns are based on a conversation which took place a year ago with Marie. Have you addressed these with JD recently? I would have reason to believe you haven’t, and because I have had many conversations and dealings with JD in regards to business, I know how each of the mentioned issues have been dealt with.
I can tell you firsthand that the cash IS being deposited. I know the situation with JD’s brother and this is parallel to you putting cash into the business – just done a little different.
One year ago, JD was advised to not micro manage his employees as much as he did. He needed to give others responsibilities and have faith and trust that they could manage things. In doing so, he unfortunately can’t immediately answer some questions presented to him because others handle some of these things. And the end result is him honestly not knowing some things because someone else has had that responsibility. Thus, he needs to look into some areas.
I’m not going to address specifics any further. But what I do want to conclude regarding the emails and situation that has transpired is we feel betrayed. We feel as though we have gone to you for help and opened up in some very delicate ways and have not been respected. These things should have been brought forth to us personally. If you didn’t feel comfortable coming to JD for whatever reason, then at least ask me. This should not have included Marie. She is an employee and works for JD. It is not appropriate to ask her if JD has been drinking and other business and personal issues. This also creates an uneasy feeling with the employees to have these questions be presented this way.
And a text message stating your demise of your investment doesn’t need to be presented to Marie. She is an employee of JD’s. That would be like your boss texting or having conversations with your staff regarding a delicate situation with you. Before, or without, coming to you first.
Bxxxx..you and I just had a conversation this past December about how JD’s spending has been significantly under control, all bills are caught up, lines of credit through the bank have been taken care of, and we are starting the new year strong – that this December is a complete contrast to a year ago.
Yes….we had some hiccups. But as I also stated, I would be a fool to think there wouldn’t be. But with the hiccups we have had, as I mentioned in one of our conversations, JD is approachable and empathetic along with sympathetic towards each one. Just as he was quick to respond with an “I’m sorry” in an email to you. This is a big difference in JD.
I really do need to defend him here! You know firsthand, if I feel JD is wrong or I shouldn’t defend him – I don’t. Even if he is my husband, if he is wrong, I call him on it.
He has been in the Word every day. He even came back from an early business meeting one day to complete his Bible reading because he didn’t have time to do it before he went. He has been evaluating EVERY aspect of his business to make sure he is doing things ethical. Hence the email that went out stating we are not doing preprints anymore. As this is not illegal, it does create some confusion sometimes and he wants to avoid this. This is just one example, and we have BOTH (together and individually) been praying over this business to have the Lord’s direction. Actullay, we have been in deep prayer personally, financially, family and business wise. So you can imagine just how much of a surprise this situation has been to us!
Truly, I feel for him! Lately, each time he feels as though he’s taking 2 steps forward, he gets knocked back 3 steps. There have been soooo many times lately that individuals have taken advantage of him, stolen from him, cheated him, and have been outright dishonest. But through this all, he has not picked up a drink, although he has wanted to very badly – he hasn’t. He continues to turn to the Lord.
He has been honest with you regarding the times he has slipped and had some to drink. And he has shared with me he feels judged for this. I can’t blame him, you have called him unethical and not having Christian standards. That’s pretty strong.
Should he have accountability? ABSOLUTELY! But in a respectful way. He definitely has deserved this. If I’m missing something here, please let me know.
The anger you have for JD runs deep. It is very apparent throughout these last emails this has been brewing for quite some time now based on when these items, you have now presented, had first taken place. This anger has turned into judgment towards JD, betrayal, disrespect and unforgiveness. I’m not sure what more he could do? The standards to which you have set for him are so high, he has no hope but failure.